Gender = gender roles. http://www.who.int/topics/gender/en/
So no, “having a gender” is not okay, it’s extremely harmful to women.
Yes they do. However, we’re only humans and just as susceptible to the feminine socialization as any other woman, and the consequences for deviating from the feminine role may be too big for some women to handle. The personal goal should be to try eliminating as much as possible of your feminine role and support other women who do it as well.
It’s always important to critically analyze the decisions you make and not stop at “but it’s my choice!” or “it empowers me!” - if you ever see a radfem claiming such, they’re most likely not familiar with radical feminism at all and only wants to claim the label of being a radical as in “cool” or “extreme”.
I think radical feminism, at the root, has beneficial components. A lot of the early focus of radical feminists was to bring awareness to sexual assault and sexual harassment, which continue to be very important subjects to raise awareness on.
That being said. I believe radical feminism has a lot of flaws. I believe the majority of radical feminists, especially on Tumblr, have out-dated opinions on sexuality and gender. Radical feminists often exclude transgender folks from the movement (TERFs) and are also often “kink-critical,” which to me really translates into, “I know best about your sexuality and that is why you cannot make your own decisions.” Many of them also have some really unhealthy perceptions and men and masculinity in the sense where they exclude masculinity from necessary conversations. There is a lot of reasons why I believe radical feminism is no longer an acceptable view-point, honestly but things are more complicated than just labels.